Colonel_Reb said:
Before I got married, I had never had sex. I do not believe it is right to practice sex outside of marriage. If I didn't have that belief, I still wouldn't have had sex with non-whites. As it is, I wouldn't like the idea of my wife having screwed around before I married her. I know she thinks the same way about me.
I just thought I'd weigh in my thoughts on "interracial" marriage and abstinence until marriage. I also don't like this James Edwards talk that "miscegenation" is for "perverts". There really is only ONE human race. Homo Sapiens Sapiens is a sub species of Homo Sapiens that has been around for about 150,000 years (at that time all of us shared a Mitochondrial Eve ancestor in Africa reducing the variability of our DNA) then there is one current human race (as all human beings have shared a common Y chromosomal Adam ancestor in the last 75,000 years) and then there are sub races based on ethnicity. Latin Europeans could actually be considered a separate sub race from Central/ Western Europeans (Celts) or Eastern and Northern Europeans (Slavs) rather than just lumping all Euros in as Cro Magnons.
My wife is just slightly over half white (about half Sicilian, 1/16 Italian, 1/4 Egyptian and about 3/16s Amero-Indian), but she is the nicest (and moral) girl I've ever met. Dating or marrying outside your race is fairly common in the Toronto suburbs I grew up in. Rarely do me and my wife like to go anywhere without each other. My and her friends have to coax us to have a boys or girls night out. As I've said before, when you truly love someone, their race doesn't matter, it's how you spiritually, emotionally and socially connect.
Colonel, I made the mistake of having a one night stand once in college with a girl who I didn't respect very much when I learned more about her. I wish I had waited for my wife. I never had it easy finding girls when I was younger and didn't find friends I could trust to put in good words for me, or introduce me to nice attractive girls until I was out of college and in my mid 20s, so I guess you could say I got desperate that night. I had only kissed a couple girls to that point. I hung with a couple people (who were part of two different groups) who talked about me behind my back because I spoke out against them when they did things that were wrong (like mistreating someone) and wouldn't brown nose them. The two aforementioned people mistreated me and/ or took advantage of me over my disability when I was in H.S and college. This brought me to find nicer people/groups over the last 7 years of my life.
My wife is a committed pro-life Catholic and was glad that she waited for me to share the ultimate intimate experience (which was easier for her to wait that long- since she's more than 4 years younger than me). And believe me I could tell she was legitimate about this lol. We didn't quite make it to the wedding like we originally planned, but we knew by that time that we were going to spend the rest of our lives together.
It is immoral to take your pants off for someone you aren't ready to have kids with. Sex with someone you love- you have a spiritual connection with is so much better. It is truly guilt free without any lust.
To meet girls out at bars isn't easy for most nice guys, there's a lot of cut throat alpha male, "playa" types that do better there, (although it isn't quite as crazy at bars here in Ontario as what I saw in dirty Jerz- where MOST people are pricks). The best way to meet a nice girl is through a good friend or family member. I met my wife through my best friend introducing me to his younger sister's best friend.