Is that sentiment shared by most of the guys here? That the man has to be "in charge" for something to be "good"? For me, I'm not into the whole pissing match between feminists (ZOMG WOMYN MUST BE IN CHARGE) and anti-feminists (ZOMG HE-MAN MUST BE IN CHARGE).
The whole white man vs. white woman "conflict" is an artificial one dreamed up by cultural Marxists to turn white people against each other so we won't stand together against our real enemies. I would love to see more critiques of feminism that don't devolve into bashing white women. If you want to talk loud, aggressive, rude, unfeminine women...well, *coughblackwomencough*.
The man can drive the car. I'll fly the plane.
Pamela,
I wasn’t attempting to infer that “the man should always drive” or that “women shouldn’t drive under any circumstance” or any nonsense like that…but rather, in that particular (very pleasant and wholesome) TV commercial that I reviewed in Post #4 of this thread, the man driving his family around added to the overall formulation of the “patriarchy” and the “nuclear family” being presented. It was a unique circumstance to be observed in a national advertisment, which is why I liked it.
It’s true that my wife doesn’t drive much when I’m also in the car (she drive perhaps once in every 30-40 trips), mostly because she sits in the back with our young kids and also because she can’t drive two of our four cars, which have a manual transmission.
I know couples where the woman always drives, which is socially disconcerting and even emasculating in my opinion. I feel the exact same way about “men” who allow their wives to mow the lawn, work on cars, fix stuff around the house, use power tools, shoot guns, go hunting, or perform labor-intensive jobs outside.
It’s not natural…kind of like some “men” I know who do all the cooking, baking, cleaning, dishes, laundry, grocery shopping, etc. Sure, I’ve run the vacuum cleaner a few times and I clean up here and there after my daughters, but it's never crossed my mind to do a load of laundry, run the dishwasher, or try out a new recipe for dinner. I’ve never done any of those things because my wife would be ashamed of herself if I did. The same way I’d be ashamed of myself if she did any of “my” work...paying bills, saving money, paying off our mortgage ASAP, caring for livestock, cutting firewood, auto maintenance, working on farm equipment, burning garbage, growing food for us/livestock, gardening, home remodeling, landscaping, wood-working, welding, running my agricultural business, etc.
To me, these chores aren’t a “gender war,” they’re “gender roles.” Performing tasks in congruence with your natural talents and abilities.
