Girls

[okra63]

I have met this girl at school, who says she has a boyfriend yet she never hardly brings him up in conversation, making you think she is single. After asking about the situation and hearing talks which could be interpreted in her favor, I am left wondering why she doesn't mention this boyfriend in my conversations with her, when I ask what she did this weekend. I believe if she had a boyfriend she likely would have went to the movies with him or done something with him. Seems like she would mention him.

If I were the proposed boyfriend and knew she didn't talk about me, I would be upset. I would think she was not proud of me. Does anyone agree or disagree, or have any explanations for this behavior?

 

[white lightning]

I would say one of two things.Either A she doesn't have
a boyfriend but told you she does to not hurt your
feelings.Or B that she has a boyfriend but isn't happy
with him.Many people spend too much time in bad
relationships.Just be yourself,and be friendly.If you
really like her,be patient.If it is meant to be it will
probably happen.Tell her that you like her and how
sweet she is.Tell her that you appreciate her friendship.
In time,don't be suprised if she isn't more friendly.
Good luck to you and rememeber if not her,there are
many other lovely ladies who would be proud to walk
along side of you.

 

[Colonel_Reb]

Good advice whitelightning. I won't add anything to that except to say if it does work out with this girl, don't overblow the relationship and build it into something its not. The worst thing you can do is to read into a relationship things that don't exist or to make expectations to high. These will only hurt the relationship. Take it one day at a time. Also, remember to never brag about past non-existant one-way relationships either. It can always make a person look stupid. Good luck with her!

 

[Bear-Arms]

I have a friend like her actually, and she never talks about her
boyfriend. She even goes on vacations with other men. I asked her
about it, and her explanation was that she see's him all the time, and
she likes her space. Some people just don't like being tied down, and
just be free. Women are just as devious as men. My friend flirt's with
guy's just to see if she can get them to like her, and then quickly
back away, it's like a game. As for the weekend thing I know my
friend doesn't spend her weekend with her boyfriend, but spends it with
her family. She still love her boyfriend, but she just doesn't want to
be around him every moment. So I think it's just best to ask her,
and not assume anything.

 

[okra63]

I guess y'all are right. Thanks whitelightening, Col. Reb, and BearArms. I imagine she just wants to be free or might be involved in a bad relationship. I think men and women maybe should have to take a course of walking in the others shoes every now and then. Girls sure do love to play games with guys, atleast this one does.

I do believe though a girl should mention the boyfriend factor no matter what, especially when she helps you with your class work. If any of y'all have any daughters please tell them not to lead guys on, if they have a boyfriend.